advice · Confession · Wild Thoughts

If dating is a soup, then I am a spork

Am I the only one who thinks that dating is the most difficult and confusing thing in the world? It’s crazy how the movies made it seem so easy!! You meet someone, realize that you have common interests, decide to go out together, get to know each other , and hopefully get into a relationship in the future…. Right?! This is how we all expect it to happen. Love at first sight kinda-thing. Well, in reality or at least in my reality it is a whole different story.

Jokes aside, I always compare my dating life to a telenovela. (Ask my friends and they’ll tell you). You meet the characters, get familiar with them, things are going smoothly, then an unexpected event changes the course of the story. You are then introduced to the villains, and the side characters. One event always leads to another. Always some drama, always something that catches you by surprise…

If you want to picture it , think Jane the Virgin …. In other words, a rocky road, full of bumps and turns, with traffic lights simultaneously indicating red and green.

Anyways, enough with the metaphors and the comparisons. I really want to take a step back and try to name the issues of why this experience is such an hassle for me, because at the end of the day I am 100% sure that I am not the only one in that perky situation.

First of all, I always say that I want to meet people “organically”. I tried that dating app situation ( Don’t start judging me, cuz we all have tried it 🙄) and it was a big fiasco, so we’re back to the traditional way. You know, you go out and somebody buys you a drink as a conversation starter. You are grocery shopping and somebody bumped into you, and here you have a conversation…. (like the movie right🤔) .

But, here’s the deal, I live in Florida where half the men want to look like Kodak Black ( as you can imagine, not my favorite look) or don’t know how to start a conversation- which already is a turnoff because I am a talker- and the other half is already taken, and I most definitely don’t mess with people’s men, so that’s a big NoNo on my list.

Second of all, who should I go for ? I definitely can’t date somebody younger than me. I don’t run a day care. Guys my age (or my generation )usually think about “having fun only”. You know, they’ll slide in your dm, think they’re “sleek”, and then go to the next when they’re bored. Commitment level: 0%.

I am not even going to mention men in their 30’s and up, because I also don’t run a retirement home.🙄

Third of all, Personality, character, maturity level. I’m sure that I’m not the only one thinking that most men now miss what we all call common sense. Going back to what I was saying before, a lot of men now think that certain behaviors are “okay” as they say, and those actions don’t really mesh well with me . Let me give you some examples: knowing their priorities, leading a girl on, not putting names on thing as an excuse for them to leave when they feel like it, wanting to impress their peers by doing stupid stuff, thinking that money and gifts solve everything and so on…

So,you’re probably thinking that I am looking for a Ken doll, someone perfect. However, I always pride myself in being someone who knows exactly what she is looking for in a significant other, from the mental down to the physique, so I am definitely not gonna settle for half just for the hype of it when I know that can have it all!

However, I need to stop ranting about all the things that men do completely wrong and probably make a little retrospection on myself-I like to be fair 😇 or not 😉

Which makes me wonder a little. Am I too demanding ? too needy ? too controlling? Too clingy? too nice ? Too dreamy? Too sentimental? Too eager for love ?….

Stay tuned for the next dramatic episode of the Adventures of Annie where all of that will be discussed. 😉


How Meal Prepping Changes My Lifestyle

So most of y’all already k now my lifestyle. Full time student (ish), with a full time job, newly-born trader, blogger at time, skincare and makeup enthusiast when I feel like to etc etc.. In between of all that, one thing that always forget to do is eat healthy. I barely eat breakfast unless it is my day off, I grab lunch here and there , and I tend to order dinner. Don’t get me wrong , I’ll do groceries, but the vegetables would spoil in my fridge because I don’t cook due to my overwhelming laziness ( that same laziness that keeps me from writing consistently) .

Trust me I want to do better but I always found an excuse to actually act differently. however, a couple months ago, I woke up in the middle of the night and decided to create a budget. I am talking about a real budget , one that includes monthly bills, monthly savings, monthly purchases etc… Being a millennial, I of course used an app called Albert to help me navigate through my expenses, and help me make optimal decisions when it comes to spending money and managing my income. This app put me in contact with an expert with whom I can review my current finances, and make changes accordingly. While reviewing my finances , It came to my attention that I was spending more than 300$ on take out, fast food, restaurant and bars, and barely 90$ on monthly groceries . I was thus advised to start meal prepping and also buying those frozen foods for those days that I don’t feel like cooking .

One day, while discussing that with one of my co-workers, and giving her all the reasons why I am not meal prepping ( i.e the repetitiveness, laziness, and the list goes on), she proposed an app called Mealime. I always pride myself of being curious ( till this day I don’t know if it’s good or bad ), I thus decided to give it a try and see how it would work. And let me tell you, this app has changed my lifestyle, it has changed my perspective on cooking, and it has changed my habits.

So a little summary of how the app works. You download it of course, create an account, select you eating preferences and habits, select a day and time for you meal prep reminder, and it gives you different types of recipes based on your previous answers. The cooking time ranges from 20 min to an hour. All recipes are clear, concise and easy to follow, and most importantly the food is very tasty, and appealing to the eyes even for an absolute beginner

Alright now back to regular programming ;). You might be wondering why do I believe that this app and particularly meal prepping changed my lifestyle. So here is why :

  • It helps me save money. My monthly grocery expenses is very much cheaper than what I was spending in restaurants. This gives me the opportunity to save more, have a better control on my finances, and of course not wondering at the end of the month where my money went ( we’ve all been there, don’t lie to yourself).
  • I now eat healthier. Everything I eat now is fresh. I know what I am eating and I don’t have to worry about that 28% chance of my food delivery driver eating part of my food. ( Yes I want to keep everything sanitary as much as possible )
  • It gives me discipline. Some people might think that having a schedule is bad because it makes you fall into a routine but I truly believe that a schedule could be of great help for somebody who wants to organize their life i.e ME. I now hold myself accountable for not only my meals, but for my everyday life.

In fact, meal prepping shows me that I don’t have to lift a mountain to execute change. A small thing , like food for instance had big outcomes, and it paved the way for many more . All I needed was the will to do so, the right canvas and the deal was sealed . With that being said, don’t procrastinate anymore. Start today. Do something that could be good for you and your overall well-being.

Beauty · lifestyle

Four natural hair tools that I can’t live without

Not too long ago, I posted a comparison picture on my snapchat: my hair after my big chop, and my progress one year after. A lot of people had asked me since then what I did to make my hair grow that fast. Honestly, I could not give a “one and done” answer. I have been using so many different products, applying so many different techniques that I can’t attribute my hair growth to one specific thing. However, I can most definitely share some tools, that I have made my life easier, and my hair more manageable since the big chop.

  • Wide Tooth Comb

While a lot of naturals have been raving for different types of detangling brushes, my good’ole wide tooth comb has always been my first choice when it comes to detangle my type 4 kinky hair. I always found it gentler on my hair than any other detangling tools, and it definitely gets the job done.

  • Scalp massager

This tool made a big difference in my natural hair journey, since it helps me keep my scalp clean. And everyone knows that healthy scalp=healthy hair, since it helps promotes blood flow . Moreover, it is very relaxing. I literally could fall asleep while using it.
Hint: I use it both under the shower when I am shampooing, and during a hot oil treatment.

  • Conditioning cap

If you care about your hair, you definitely know how important it is to deep condition your hair in order to retain moisture, strengthen your hair etc… Step it up with a conditioning cap, place it in the microwave for a minute an put it over your plastic cap. The heat allows the product to penetrate better in your hair strands and work their magic

  • Hooded dryer

I don’t know about a lot of you, but I hate sleeping with my hair all wet and I have the bad habit of washing my hair very late at night. A hooded dryer allows me to dry my hair in a quick fashion without the hassle. I also helps me step it up my wash n go since my curls would dry faster and hold better. Hint: it can also be used for deep conditioning, coloring and other hairstyles