Why is it so important for us women to go out on a date ?

It’s definitely not for the free food, the free ride or the free entrance to a particular event. We can definitely feed ourselves, pay an uber and put gas in our car. We also have girl friends whenever we want to go to a bar, the movies , a festival, a fair, a comedy show. Going out on a date allows us to “analyze” our potential “playmates” in a different scenery.

It allows us to look at how they treat the waitress, the bartender, the barista, the cashier; it allows us to look at how they eat, how they interact with others and their environment, how they drive, how they walk on the street with us, how aware they are of their surroundings and how they portray themselves.

Being in different settings brings different sides of your personality and triggers different aspects of your subconscious which allows partners to better know and understand each other, and most importantly to see how they fit into each other’s life

P.S A date does not have to be pricey. Be Creative


A chance For A change

This article was written over 6 months ago, but kept it private.  However, my country is goring through a big crisis and I thought that making this public was my duty as a citizen. I might be far from the actual situation but my heart is broken. I am tired of seeing my fellow citizens living in constant fear, unsure of  a near future, a better future .

I rarely give my opinions when it comes to politics, but I strongly believe that my point of view is in order right now. I know a lot of you will be quick to comment on what I am about to say, but this is what I think, this is how I see things, and I stand by it.

For the past few days, my fellow Haitians have been living what I call an horror story. Horror story that we all have seen before.

As I heard-since I don’t live in the country right now- the population has been protesting due to the expensive price of the fuel.

I’m saying loud and clear, my people have all the rights on earth to do that. They have the duty as citizens to keep the government in check, make sure that it is working in the population’s best interest.

As I believe, the government has failed its people, I also believe that my fellow Haitians have failed the country.

What they were doing is pure vandalism, and doesn’t resolve in any way the different problems and issues that Haiti is facing right now. Destroying properties, businesses, hotels, and so forth is only pulling the country back. If for the last decade, we made one step forward; during those past few days we made tens backwards. Trashing, burning those few infrastructure that we had in the country are only putting the country and it’s people in much more misery and poverty.

The economy of a country is like a food chain, removing one entity and the whole system crawls.

Those supermarkets that have been burned, people were working there. They were those who needed the service of the shoeshine boy for 15 gourdes, those who were buying these bagged water for 3 gourdes in the streets, those who usually give 50 gourdes to the street guy to wipe their car down. They were the ones who kept the economy running-as little as it was. Now they would most likely not be able to do it anymore because they are now most likely to lose their job.

Those acts of violence are only increasing the unemployment rate in Haiti.

I read somewhere that it is totally normal for a population to act like that; Brazil and Mexico have done it the same way -as this person said.

Let me clarify, Haiti doesn’t have the luxury to react as so. When it takes two years for those countries to fix a problem, Haiti fixes it in twenty.

Moreover, our lack of education and our mentality are dragging us back.

It is time to stop thinking short term and more long term, it’s time to forget about this “koupe tèt boule kay” ideology, “ pito nou lèd nou la” quote, “li fèl poukisa m paka fèl tou”, “nage pou sòti”. it is time to think as a whole.

As JFK said: “ ask not what the country can do for you; ask what you can do for the country”

This is our fault, not only the government’s, not only the population’s, but ours. We all have failed Haiti, we all have been doing the same mistakes over and over again. It is time we all take our responsibilities , and start to act in order to put the country back on track. Musicians, doctors, entrepreneurs, teachers, students, politicians, diaspora we hall have our role in this

We will not be able to “put Haiti on the map if we don’t change our mindset first. Haiti will not be “open for business” if us Haitians are always acting in our own interests.


A Concerned Haitian Citizen

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Half Empty or Half Full

Today is the 15th of July and, I had an accident between 6:45 and 7 in the morning. A car was going backward and hit mine which led me to crash against a wall. Thanks to God we got out of it alive and with minimal casualties. (I’m not counting the car since it’s not the point of me writing tonight). Because of the collision, I hit my left hips, and my sister, seated in the passenger seat hit her head.

As you guys know, when an accident happens, the two parties involved have to call the police and the insurance company for the paperwork you all know about (again not the matter of the subject). As it was my very first accident, and I never thought that something like that could ever happen to me, I was traumatized. I did not know what to say, how to act. I was shaking.

However, this shock quickly transformed into anger. Being in strike for quite a while, I was not able to find the insurance company. All phone numbers were out of service. Every police officer that I encounter had something to do. They were “too busy” to ask me and the other driver about the cause of the accident. If they even took the time to stop, they told us to solve that ourselves. You know guys, the other driver would have given me some money, so I can go fix my bended tire, my cracked windshield and all the other damages that I don’t have the vocabulary for. Fortunately, the driver who hit me was quite comprehensive, and did not ran away as the other one who hit my sister’s car just two days before.

This accident taught me a lesson. With that accident, I realized what my people, my fellow Haitians are capable of. I realized how many things that still needs to be fixed in my country. My people can be helpful and sensitive but, they can also be cold-hearted. I will never forget that old man in the street who brought us some ice for my sister’s head and my hips. I will also never forget that woman who was selling different kind of goods, complaining about the wall we crashed against. She wanted us to give her money so she could “rebuild the wall”, just because it was her favorite place to seat during the day. Let me clarify, that wall is not a private wall! That woman didn’t think of the people involved in the accident. She didn’t care if they were hurt or not. She didn’t think of herself that could have been hit and crushed by the car if she was here a few minutes earlier.

Right in the moment, while all those things were happening to me, I wanted to leave the country and never come back.  Nothing good is coming out of it lately. Private universities and public offices are on strike, most of the public databases of the country are out of order due to overloading. Let’s not forget that our government is not the best nor our country is the safest right now. And yes, for those reasons i wanted to leave.  In that moment I was seeing the glass half empty. I decided to see all the bad sides of what happened to me. I did not think of all the people that do not have a way out like me. I did not think of the people that are counting on me for a change.  In that moment, I let my anger consumed me. I was not thinking rationally

But when I had a moment to myself, later during the day, I rethought it through. I decided to see the glass half full. There’s no way for me to leave my country and never come back. I thought about this friend who was telling me just the night before that his dream is for our people to have a new mentality, a new perspective on life. I thought about this other friend who’s working hard right now, so hard, that he could become the president of Haiti in 20 years; because he wants a change. I thought about our conversations, and I remembered how angry he was to see how corrupted and expensive our country is becoming. I thought of all of my friends – and all the people that I don’t know but that I have heard about- who are working as they can for a better Haiti. I thought of all the people with hope and faith for this country. I thought of myself, I thought of my goals for Haiti. No, I will never leave my country.  The events that happened to me those last few weeks are a motivation to work harder for a better Haiti. These events made me believe even more about the potentials of our generation, and that we are the change that Haiti needs right now.